I am  often asked why I only work with women and children. The reason is not because I hate men. I have a lovely partner and two amazing sons. And I think men can be lovely creatures... sometimes. LOL

A personal call for women

I have however a calling to help women and this is the dedication for my practice. I believe that the world of men as it is, the patriarchy, has not shown it was a successful model and we need women to overhaul it and to bring it to where it needs to be, in collaboration with men, I'd like to add.

Men have been in power for centuries and look where we are today. We need to change the economic, patriarchal, profit driven, masculine and competitive world in which we live. I believe women can help do that, but they need encouragement because they are used to think that they can't make a difference. They have been relegated to the home and child rearing and have not had enough of a say in how the society is ran. I am always amazed at how, more than a century after the start of the feminism movement, this is still a reality today. Even now that more and more women make it (where I might ask), they too often have to act like men to succeed.

Women face unique challenges

I also believe that women face unique challenges that men don't and I want to be there for them to help them through the crises. Women still have to face sexism and have to work twice as hard to obtain recognition in a lot of areas of society. I am talking about the Western world here, but obviously there is a lot to be done in other parts of the world too. For my own part, I know that I was always paid between 20 to 30% less than my ex-husband with the same university background, the same length of experience and me having had a more glamorous career than him. It didn't change anything: he still earned more than I did.

All too often in couples, women are expected to do more: cook, clean, shop, tidy, manage finances and work.

They face challenges around motherhood, whether they want children or not, whether they have the children they want, or have children they don't want, or cannot have the children that they want...

They are abandonned by their partners-husbands often in the very early stages of pregnancy or motherhood... they suffer a lot of domestic violence and are often in a position where they don't know where to go or what to do to get out of the cycle of violence. They tend to think it's their fault and just put up with it. Sometimes they don't leave because they are afraid of something worse if they dare fly the nest.

They are still often economically vulnerable. This is due to the fact that often when children come, they are the ones who are asked to volunteer to look after the children, especially in homes of low income. They don't always have education although a lot of them are very smart. It's hard for them to fit in the working world that will now allow enough flexibility for child care when children are unwell. Not to mention the fact that their career often hit a glass ceiling right from the start, even if they don't have children and don't want any, because they are potentially "breeders". All this makes them ideal candidate for poverty when divorce, death or crisis strike.

I could go on forever... but I want to talk about what I see as the strengths and weaknesses of women.

Women's strengths and weaknesses

Women bring kindness and love. They are often carers and incredibly dedicated to their families but often overlooked. They have incredible healing capacities. They tend to work more in collaborative ways then men. They have to be incredibly organised to run everything at once and have amazing managerial and negotiation skills. Their planning skills are pretty awesome too. 

But because they have been the "weaker" sex, they have had to resort to manipulation and this is a pattern that sometimes stops them from being happy, including in their relationships. They also tend to give into self pity, due to their sensitivity. They often expect their boyfriends or partners or husbands to make them happy.These are the issues that I feel I can help most with. But also I want to help women dream big. I want to help women fulfil all parts of their lives without having to compromise or sacrifice.

They often gossip too much because they tend to get their sense of self worth from others. They have been raised to look out for encouragement and praise and to thrive to please.

I want women to understand that selfishness is actually a good thing for others. I also want them to understand that when we give too much, then what we give is not really the best we can. Looking after oneself is the foundation for being a better person and a more loving one. And when we are happy, we can spread the love and the happiness better.

If you like the idea of an online women community, then send me a message through the contact me page. requesting an invitation to join my Ladies of Light community on Ning. It's women only and invitations only. You can also read more about my Ladies of Light Charity project here.